I think I made a
breakthrough – A life shattering, mind altering breakthrough!!
I can’t even begin
to explain how much my mind has been blown by this morning’s
experience.
The world is FULL of
people, different people have had different life experiences. Each of
these experiences in turn create the current “STATE” of their
life.
A man might be in a
terrible car accident and loose the loose of his legs. He is
disabled, anyone to see him can recognize his disability, but it
doesn’t prevent him from leading a full and healthy life, but what
if the accident leaves him upset and angry, “stunted”, unable to
reach his full potential not because of the loss of his legs but
because he simply hasn’t made the next mental/emotional step to
move forward.
..But this is
obvious when acted in TV shows, it’s “grand”, the actor playing
the part yells at the other actors, calls them names..it is played
that way so that we as the audience can empathize with what he is
going through
Real life isn’t
that BLACK AND WHITE. Their are so many subtleties, the man could
recover could get out be sociable, do things, and function normally
in most situations, but he still may hold back, may hold anger and
resentment inside, and that holding on to it weakens him prevents him
from reaching its full potential.
But the “problem”
is in real life, we deal with people everyday, people with different
levels of this ‘maturity’ but that is not how I have been moving
through life, I have been continuing to assume over and over that
whatever “emotional” milestone I have overcome, everyone else has
to, that life exists as a learning experience for me and that I am at
the back of the line trying to “catch up” to everyone else.
But this is FALSE,
we are all at different points in the line together. And the line
isn’t a race, the person in the lead isn’t ‘winning’, they
simply ‘exist’ in that position and when we speak to one another
person it can be hard sometimes to understand where someone ‘stands’
emotionally, but it is a mistake to ASSUME, they are in the same
position as us.
Which is really
ironic because we all want to feel connected to one another, we grow
in our friendships by identifying things we have in common.
Okay, so I go along
walking through life in this “line” assuming that everyone near
me in the line is in the same ‘STATE’, if I look back I can see
people who are at some type of super ‘obvious’ disadvantage. If I
look ahead I see nothing.
So I am very OPEN to
the people around me, people who have had difference experiences, but
who I assume have learned / belief the same things as me. And this
is where I get myself into trouble because even a small subtly can
be like a GAP of a thousand miles if not charted carefully.
And it is NOT my
“DUTY” to assume or to try and bring everyone along with me on my
journey, some people will want to travel along side of me, some will
not, some I will not want to have by my side.
