Inside my head are
whirl of thoughts, or possibly more specifically, “thought-lets”
Small senses I
receive either from my environment or from somebody, or somewhere.
They maybe based on
a feeling, or they may drive into a feeling.
When I focus on the
“thought-let” a fully formed thought is created.
Increased thinking
of the thought forms a belief.
The belief affects
how I go out into and interpret the world around me, re-enforcing
that belief as “true” and “correct”
I then make the
ASSUMPTION that those around me share in that belief, when they do I
am VALIDATED. When they don’t I am upset and angry.
If GOD’S greatest
gift to mankind is the concept of FREE WILL. If I can truly choose
which of these ‘thought-lets’ I CHOOSE to focus on and wish I do
not. I can choose to focus on those THOUGHT-LETS that are most likely
to bring me the things I desire, and NOT simply the things I can’t
stand, don’t want or HATE.
When the student is
ready, the teacher will appear...these words came into my life just
prior to meeting the woman who is know my wife, gaining the life I wanted and being
happy and fulfilled.
But when I feel I
reached my ‘goal’ and I ask..where do I go from here? I get stuck
Where your ATTENTION
GOES, ENERGY FLOWS, AND RESULTS SHOW.
If I focus my
attention on what I don’t want, on what frustrates me.
If I focus my
attention on what others are “doing to me”, then all I can see, all
of the ENERGY that exists is within that attention. Whether or not
the person is “doing these things” in objective experience is
irrelevant
Let us suppose it is
my deepest desire to have a strong connection with my
manager/supervisor. One where I can share my thoughts and feelings
safely, one where empathy is abundant, one where we work together to
solve problems.
But instead I focus
on what does not work, how frustrated I feel, how no matter what I
try nothing works, how I then conclude, it must NOT be me, it must be
the ‘OTHER’, the ‘OTHER’ that is stopping me from gaining
what I want.
My focus is no
longer on attracting what I WANT, it is about thinking about what I
don’t want, which forms beliefs and attitudes which flow entergy
into what I don’t want therefore there is MORE OF IT to see, more
to VALIDATE.
I could be 100%
right, the entire ‘fault’ could be 'the others' persons inability to feel
empathy, to move to the ‘spiritual’ enlightenment, but being
“RIGHT” in this way does not provide me any happiness, only more
validation of my ‘RIGHTNESS’
Setting GOALS is
important for many reasons, but perhaps the MOST important is that
requires a change of focus from what you DON’T WANT to MANIFEST
into what you actually see manifesting.
If the ONLY thing I
can control, is my thought’s, specifically WHICH of those
THOUGHT-LETS I choose to focus my attention on
So How does Brad be the
best Brad he can be?
Some people respond
well to philosophical questioning… the examined life
Others may respond
better to what they see
When others I care about are troubled, or seem troubled, giving them ‘advice’, or speaking
in ways that allow them to ‘question’ maybe very uncomfortable for them, they
feel ‘questioned’ and withdrawn
Hmm.. What about the idea
of simply expressing my belief as a fact WITHOUT introducing
questioning to their beliefs
What about hearing
when they express their belief as a fact to ME, instead of focusing
on the ‘anger’ of it all “HOW DARE YOU STATE YOUR OPINION AS A
FACT”.
What if I simply
stated my belief back, not in an angry, antagonizing or contemptuous
way. Not in a way that tells them I understand..and then fill in my
understanding, but simply as a positive belief about life.
Perhaps even better,
is a belief in THEM, my belief in THEM.
Even if the whole
‘manifestng’ thing were complete bullshit. Which attitude is more likely to bring me closer to my desires? - the
one that is focused on the ‘wrongness’ of others and I must
‘help’ and ‘fix’ them. Or the one that is focused on the
belief that we are all one, all part of the same whole, and that we
provide caring and service, and kindness to those, and thus to
ourselves.
Maybe this is what
my Dad meant when he spoke of doing things for others being more
important. Maybe is is not about doing things at the EXPENSE of
ourselves, but at the level of recogition that giving CARING, AND
KINDNESS breeds CARING AND KINDNESS back into our lives.
If I want EMPATHY,
LOVE, SERVICE flowing into MY LIFE. I can’t possibly get their
squeezing out contempt, ‘fix yourself attitude’
And those that send
that contempt my way, that ‘fix yourself’ my way. I can CHOOSE to
send caring and compassion back.
They cannot hear my
words telling them to think differently to manifest their own
happiness if as a student they are not yet ready. I cannot teach,
but that is okay, I can still set my positive example out onto the
world, spreading love and kindness in response.
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